Networking

The circles we run are filled with many friends.. many of us categorize our friends so they do not overlap. But it often happens during casual conversation you learn of other friends that you find interesting but never meet or people that sound very familiar.. Today, I met this wonderful mom who after an hour of conversation realized we have mutual friends through a couple of steps between us. When I confirmed the friendship with a friend of mine who knows her friend she knew of her.. It is amazing just how small this world we live in.. Being a dwarf I am often remembered but not this time it was a momma circle that brought it all together..

Valuable lesson is to be kind to others because someone knows someone else.. I found this video on youtube.. How many kids do you know?




I know.. I know.. Now you will have that tune in your head all day!! Enjoy!!

Life's decisions

It has been over a week since my mom has died and I am gradually dealing with the loss. Grief comes in waves and it takes time to wade through it. I have been trying to keep myself busy and with the help of friends I am dealing with it all.. I have been able to gather all the paperwork and sent it off to be probated by a family attorney.. One more step down.. I am consistenly working as a self contractor as an educational consult. I have also made some progress with my mother's belongings and donating to various charities and people.. All through it making decisions that will change everything..

I have a couple of major decisions to make soon. I honestly don't know what to do but I will pray and ask god for some help.. My sister tells me to put my trust in god and he will take care of me.. To me that is frightening, I have faith but only recently just found it..

It seems that society is making decisions that are changing the lives of many people so I am not alone.. Here is a song that I find inspiring.. Enjoy

Peace at Last

After a long and hard battle with MSRA my mother passed away early this morning. It was a relief to know she is finally in heaven telling my dad what to do.. But as I type this and sit in this house she and my father made I am reminded of her moreso than ever before and it hurts. I am alone now and my dogs can sense than I am in pain. But this is supposed to be about my mom..

She was extraordinary woman that I am lucky to call mom.. She was the last child of Patricia Sue and so loved as that.. My maternal grandmother died shortly after that and my mom's world change drastically as my grandfather remarried.. Throughout her life she struggled to be accepted and demonstrate her independence.. As a college student she worked hard to prove that she can do her job but she was often judge by her size not her ability. Her resiliency and close friends (Merle and Bertha) loved her enough that she was able to come out of her shell.. My mom met my dad at an LPA meeting.. I have to tell the story for those who knew (wow.. past tense) my parents.. My dad (whom everyone loved) like the drink and has a few at a regional meeting when he walked into the ladies room and saw my mom.. It was love at first sight for him.. He pursued (almost stalked) her.. She (having low self-esteem and efficacy) gave my dad a run for his money but eventually gave in.. They were married 6 months after their first encounter.. From family friends I have been told they were meant for each other...My dad being spontaneous, humorous, and easy going gave my mom some serenity.. and my mom being uptight, independent, and shielded gave my dad a purpose.. I have been told they loved each other very much and were very excited about having kids.. My mom's bbf told me she was scared when she was pregnant with me because she was unsure of herself and how society who treat me.. She did not want me to go through what she did.. And I didn't.. I was born 2 years after their marriage and then 2 years and 1 day my beautiful sister was born and now there were 4 more dwarves in the world.. My mom was a strict, patient, inventive mom.. She would often use some sort of educational punish such as picking pecans outside and then coming in and completing oral word prblms.. Throughout my life my mom instilled a fierce independence, resiliency, high expectations, and passion for education.. As a teacher, she impacted many lives positively.. My parents "adopted" 2 boys and raised them as their own.. These men now are protective, brilliant, independent, and nurturing men thanks to the lessons they instilled..

I have always had some friction with my mom.. mostly because I am like her and we often did not see eye to eye.. Her expectations for me were so much higher than for my sister and i resented that in the beginning.. Now I am only hope and pray I live up to her and make the impact in lives that she has..

Mom, I love you more than I can even express.. I have always tried to make you proud of me and live up to your expectations only to learn you expected me to be compassionate about my passions.. You have raised 4 people into intelligent, loyal, loving, life learning adults. We owe you our souls and will always remember you.. I am humbled and laugh silently to know that you are finally with the love of your life watching over us.. You are my inspiration..

Crying but breathing.. This is for you..

Lost head but found some hope..

I woke up this morning not expecting much at all. I had a few phone calls to make, a house to clean, my dogs to feed, and my mom to visit. As of right now I made the calls, fed the dogs and visited with my mom, who after a night of restlessness seems to have settled back down to a relaxed and restful sleep. I chatted with her today about how things were going when I got a much needed self esteem boost. A job that I wanted but discounted was offered to me today and I accepted it.. This also allows me to stay in S.A.. which is what I wanted to do and I am still working with children.. I was so excited to share the news with my friends who have been supporting me and with my mom..She sighed, smile, and snorted.. I took that as an approval.. I told her everything is going to be fine here.. I am great and will be ok... Go find my dad.. I need to there with him instead of here with me.. I told me sis that she needed to let me mom go.. I think my mom is holding on for her baby.. I will pray for her to have the courage and strength to tell her bye.. I thought that I would be the one to take this harder or have a harder time letting go.. Maybe not.. I am my mother's daughter with my father's looks.. (thanks dad!)

Now the new adventures of Dakota.. Today, I went outside to play with my dogs to discover a statue that is my moms of St. Francis was knocked over and missing a very important part.. his head.. I looked over at Seamus and Riley who were sitting under the tree and pointing to Dakota who happened to have the missing head in her mouth.. She was playing with it, like it was a ball.. Nice huh? I told her that St. Francis is the saint for animals and has saved her a lot lately from her previous mishaps.. She looked at me like huh? are you talking to me? do I need to pay attention? because I have this new toy that is fun... So, now a headless St. Francis stands outside by my Pecan tree quietly without a head.. I love this dog... Okay.. I think I am done for tonight.. I need to clean but I am mesmerized by Tom Jones the singer.. Why? I ask myself.. Then I realized that the music you are forced to listen to as a child hypnotizes you as an adult... So here is one of my mom's favorite songs..



Here is dad's favorite..



Enjoy...

Driveway moment

I visited my mom a couple of times today. She responds softly to her name and smiles at you then drifts back to sleep. We have discontinued the feeding tube today because her body was not absorbing it. I sat there this morning and just talked to her about the dogs, my week, and told her about a new book I am reading. She would occasionally open her eyes and smile. I left after a while and drove home in silence. Crying softly realizing that the end is very near.. I thought this letting go process would be easier because it is gradual. It is not.. Realizing that I won't be able to see her, have her listen to me ramble, and smile at me when I need reassurance it difficult.

I also realized that this had been a very disruptive few months. March, my career was halted.. April, my son was left behind.. May, I will most likely lose my mom.. God only gives you what you can handle right? I will be a stronger person right? There are answers around the corner right?

I went to church this morning and prayed for peace, more faith, and grace to get through this and support my family. I know I will endure and live through this with resiliency and fortitude.. I thank my mom for those qualities I have.. She has taught me to always has passion for what you want.. Do not let anyone tell you that you can't!

Mom.. This is for you...